Dating can be hard as you don’t want to be the first person to make a move, only for you to be rejected. That kind of shutdown can be hard to recover from, but what about when someone is flirting with you? One girl was ‘subtly’ hinting to her neighbor that she liked him, but he wasn’t getting the message. That meant the girl had to be brave and tell him upfront she liked him because he didn’t get what she was hinting at.
The soft approach
A girl named Kuda liked her neighbor, but she didn’t want to just come out and say it.
That’s when she hatched a foolproof plan to get her neighbor to drop by, except he wasn’t on the same page as her, at all.
Kuda started the conversation with a simple “Hey,” before introducing herself as the next-door neighbor of the guy she liked. They probably should have said hello to each other before, but these days who really speaks to their neighbors anyway?
Lots of people try to avoid having as much contact with strangers as possible, even if they are the people who they live next door to. Kuda felt she and her neighbor had ignored each other for long enough, and she wanted to get to know him better.
Not a great start
The conversation between Kuda and her neighbor didn’t exactly get off to a great start after he sort of made fun of her name. It was fine, this was all stuff that Kuda was used to, and she brushed it off.
Having an unusual name like Kuda brings attention like that, so she had a lifetime of experience deflecting comments about how different it is. Already though, this conversation was not heading in the direction that Kuda would have wanted it to as she was trying to break the ice.
A problem with her bed
Kuda claimed to her neighbor that she was having trouble with her bed, and she needed him to come and have a look. She even insinuated that she “wants it firm,” but that clue was a little too subtle for the neighbor. Although he agreed that “firm is better,” he advised that Kuda find some help from someone else in their little community.
According to the neighbor, he wasn’t going to get home until late, so he recommended that Randy was the guy to go to. It wasn’t Randy’s help that Kuda wanted though, she wanted her neighbor’s.
Staying up late
The neighbor warned Kuda that he worked late, but she said she didn’t mind waiting up for him. She told her neighbor that she would prefer it if he helped her instead of Randy, but he didn’t seem to understand why and asked her that very question.
Kuda said she would just prefer it if it were him who helped her, and even suggested that they could have some drinks together. It was going to be a late night if she stayed up waiting for her neighbor, but that’s kind of what Kuda was hoping for anyway.
A drinking buddy
Kuda was proposing that she could be her neighbor’s drinking buddy, and he seemed to be okay with that idea. He kept advising her that he wouldn’t be back until late and even said he would need to take a shower before coming over to Kuda’s apartment.
Kuda again dropped a major hint that she was into her neighbor, and told him that he could take a shower at her apartment if he liked. She even said they could shower together, but he still wasn’t getting the message.
Spelling it out
This was getting to the point where the guy was completely confused about what was going on. Kuda had to spell it out for him and told him outright that she liked him. She told him she wanted him to come over to her place because she liked him, once she dropped that bombshell the guy stopped asking questions.
He was happy to come over, and judging by the smiley face she sent him in response, Kuda was finally happy her message had been understood. The subtle approach didn’t work, but she got the message through in the end.
Needing his help
Kuda even told her neighbor that she needed his help with her bed. This was meant to be a foolproof way to get him to come over to hers, but this first hint that she liked him was far too subtle. The guy next door wasn’t really that forthcoming in offering his services.
He did at least ask Kuda what she needed his help with, but it wasn’t long before he found a way to send her to someone else. Maybe he just wanted to chill out after work, but once he got the message, he was down to ‘help.’
Persistence paid off
Kuda must really have liked the guy she was trying to invite over, because she didn’t stop trying despite the setbacks. Because she was being so subtle, these were not rejections, because the guy had seemingly no idea what Kuda was asking him to do.
She managed to get what she wanted in the end though, and after a series of text messages, her neighbor was finally making his way to her place. All hope was almost lost for Kuda, but by spelling it out, her cards were on the table and her neighbor seemed to like her too.
If things went well for Kuda and her neighbor, they probably had plenty more sleepovers. We can only hope for Kuda’s sake that each time they decide to meet up after the first time, she doesn’t have to spell things out quite so much.
If she does, then it might be a little bit tiring for her to have to spell things out each and every time she wants to meet her neighbor for some fun. He did accept the invitation pretty hastily so he’ll hopefully be on the same page as Kuda after ‘helping her with her bed.’
Sharing the story
Kuda took screenshots of her conversation with her neighbor, and eventually, those images made their way online. Nothing is a secret these days, and that includes how oblivious to the fact that Kuda’s neighbor had no idea she liked him so much.
As soon as the conversation went online people found it hilarious and it was shared on the image hosting site Imgur many times. While it might have taken Kuda’s neighbor a while to get the hint, people sharing it online understood where she was coming from immediately.
Spreading like wildfire
The posts of Kuda’s conversation with her neighbor went viral almost instantly. The text messages were viewed over 134,000 times and given over five thousand upvotes too. In just 10 hours of the story being live, there were over 560 comments on the situation that Kuda found herself in.
People were divided on how they felt about things panned out with Kuda and her neighbor. Some were supportive of the neighbor, while others commented on how oblivious Kuda’s neighbor was until things were spelled out for him.
On the guy’s side
One person felt as though the guy was just trying to be cautious about what Kuda was looking for from him. It could have been hugely embarrassing for him if he had just assumed that Kuda was into him from the beginning, only for her to say she wasn’t.
Kuda might have genuinely been looking for some help from her neighbor, so he decided to play things cautiously to see how they developed. This person thought that Kuda’s neighbor was just trying his best not to come across as a creep after she began to drop her subtle hints.
Getting to the point
Another person pointed out that it was remarkable how quickly Kuda was able to get results when she stopped using hints. As Kuda took the direct approach, it was clear that her neighbor finally understood what she was talking about and was totally on board with the plan.
This commenter wanted people to know that the direct approach was the best way. It’s not for everyone though, because it means you have to put yourself out there in a vulnerable way, so Kuda was just doing her best to avoid embarrassment.
One commenter said they were getting flashbacks to their youth, when they were seemingly just as oblivious to advances from girls as Kuda’s neighbor is. The flashbacks reminded them of the complications dating can bring when you are young and not quite in tune with the world.
Some people might feel dating gets easier with age, but it just becomes less complicated. The issue when you get older is not understanding the hints, it’s finding people to send you their hints in the first place.
One commenter said it’s all well and good Kuda sending this message to her neighbor, but it probably wouldn’t be okay if the gender roles were reversed. They felt that if a guy said to a girl what Kuda said to her neighbor, then the girl probably would say no.
Everyone is different though, and while some might not like to be approached this, others will. Dating is about finding someone on your wavelength, so if you’re a straightforward person, it might be a bit annoying to be with someone who talks in riddles.
Even though Kuda eventually spelled out what it was that she was looking for from her neighbor, one person still wasn’t sure. They said if they were in Kuda’s neighbor’s shoes, they still wouldn’t be sure what her intentions were.
Kuda did have to leave several hints, and her neighbor seemed to be a bit confused by all the attention he was getting. He seemed to get the message when Kuda spelled it out for him, but who knows what he did when he finally knocked on her door that evening.
Having a crush
When someone has a crush on you it isn’t always obvious, but one Reddit thread tried to spell out all those little signs for people. In an ‘AskReddit’ thread, the question “What screams “I have a crush on you?”” was asked to the users of the social media site.
One user simply asked the question, and thousands of people responded with their thoughts on the matter. This thread might help out a bunch of people unsure if the person they think likes them actually does or not.
Sitting near you
This might be obvious to most people, but one person commented that when someone does anything possible to sit next to you, it’s obvious they have a crush. When someone likes you it makes sense that they want to spend as much time around you as possible, so that’s what they do.
If you find that someone keeps trying to sit next to you at any opportunity, they probably have a crush on you. Either that or you give off a ton of body heat, and they are super cold.
Another thing that Reddit users believe people with crushes like to do is to make any excuse to touch you. A common one is a person crushing on you touching your sweater and commenting on how soft it is.
People thought it was a classic move as it gives a person an excuse to touch the other, but it’s still sort of innocent enough. As long as you aren’t just going up to random strangers and feeling their clothes; as that’s less acceptable.
A gift is always welcome
One person felt that an obvious trick that people who are crushing on you do to let you know they like you is to bring you little gifts. It works especially well with extra food and small little gifts according to this Redditor.
One person replied that a girl once went to the trouble to bring them a muffin and some warmed milk all the way to their class before. If that wasn’t a hint that she liked this person, then we don’t know what is.
A person replied to the Reddit thread saying they just realized they had spent their childhood doing everything possible to ensure their crushes didn’t know they liked them. Someone responded to this comment saying that the amount of teasing they suffered for liking someone was enough to stop them from showing their personality.
Others responded in kind, regretting the fact that they had tried so hard to hide the fact they liked someone. It’s all a part of growing up though, and one day we can all hopefully be as confident about dating as Kuda was with her neighbor.
Benefits of assertiveness
Kuda acted extremely brave when she decided to finally just come out and directly tell her neighbor that she liked him. According to communication experts, being assertive indicates that you know how to be effective when it comes to saying whats on your mind. Moreover, being assertive can also have other benefits, including reducing stress and anger – probably from finally being able to speak your mind! Kuda was earning herself more than just a date when she was being direct with her neighbor; she was also gaining self-confidence!
Costs of assertiveness
On the other hand, although Kuda’s assertiveness paid off in the end, she was actually opening herself to quite a lot of risks. Experts say that when you communicate assertively, it could cause the other party on the receiving end to react negatively. For instance, the other person may have wanted to continue the conversation for much longer, but your assertiveness brought it to the conclusion. Additionally, assertiveness can sometimes make another person defensive, causing them to get angry. While being assertive almost always works, just be aware of when and where you use it!
Missing the signs
In the end, with Kuda being assertive, she managed to get her neighbor to understand she liked him. However, if she hadn’t been so preoccupied with trying to achieve her goal, she might have noticed that he was actually flirting with her, too.
After Kuda told him her name, he teased her. Experts actually say that teasing is a way to build trust and good feelings. Again, while assertiveness has its benefits, it may cause you some tunnel vision – be on the look out.
Real-life romance novel
Although getting her neighbor to finally comprehend that she was interested in him, in the end Kuda achieved her goal. Did you know that Kuda actually turned her romance into something people only read about?
There is actually an entire genre of novels that focuses specifically on people falling in love with their neighbors. Who knows, maybe one day an author will write a novel about Kuda and her neighbor, and the unique way Kuda asserted herself so that he would know she liked him.
Hopefully happily ever after
We can talk about things Kuda might have done better to get her crush to understand that she liked him. Nevertheless at the end of the day, Kuda accomplished her goal and that’s really all that matters.
While we haven’t received any updates from Kuda about whether or not her romance with the boy-next-door turned into something a bit more long turn, we certainly hope things work out for the best. The ultimate moral of the story is that taking chances will always leave you with results!